Monday, March 18, 2013
Question: Should A Church Pay For Someone's Child Support or Child Custody Attorney Fees?
Should a church pay the attorney’s fees for someone seeking child support or child custody?
Profile: Male Over 60 North America
Many questions must be answered about this question.
Was this a marriage or just a sexual relationship?
Did both, either or none of the two biological parents claim to be Christians?
If both claimed to be Christians then they have bypassed this scripture.
1 Corinthians 6:1 (New King James Version)
“6 Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints?”
Dealing with people is messy - always.
I have to assume that neither of the biological parents are Christians or one or both are very weak Christians.
The church has to deal in truth and not a "he said she said" speculation.
Discernment has to be prayed for.
Colossians 2:8 New King James Version (NKJV)
8 Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ.
Folly is joy to him who is destitute of discernment, But a man of understanding walks uprightly.
We are to always seek the best for all people.
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.”
― John Wesley
Discern your situation. In truth is one party 100% wrong and they threaten the child by neglect, physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse and abuse drugs or fear not the Lord?
It does not sound like you have a saint on either side.
Do you know you have the 100% truth before you put the Lord’s character, the Lord’s money and the Lord’s reputation and the repudiation of the church on the line?
Will the church leadership and members be in full agreement and believe that support in any way is not of the Lord?
Will this hurt the fellowship and Christ’s witness if the church as a whole takes this step of official support of one side of this unholy dispute?
Church members can help either party as individuals. To endorse either side as a church is a very serious matter.
Again, dealing with people is messy especially with the unsaved.
There is no clear cut answer.
Do not proceed unless your church can move forward in Christian unity with clear scriptural and Holy Spirit sent conviction.