Sunday, March 13, 2011

Should a Pastor Officiate a Gay Wedding?

Question received:
I come seeking counsel. I have been ordained for about 2 years now, I have never performed a marriage yet, but I recently started thinking. What should I do if a Homosexual couple asks me to perform their marriage ceremony? Should I do it? What would be most pleasing to God?

My Answer:

Pastor the answer is simple, NO. In no way should you participate or give the church's and God's blessing on this sinful activity. The Word of God forbids homosexual activity. Many scriptures in both the Old Testament and New Testament prohibit and condemn all homosexual acts. Many liberal theologians have tried to contextualize and minimize the consistent judgement against any homosexual behavior. As I wrote earlier it is simple to say the gay lifestyle is wrong but it also very hard to confront people in their sins. It is hard to communicate that you are prohibiting an illicit union for there own good. It is not God's desire that anyone should live in there sin. The following scripture from 1st Corinthians 6:9-10 states that homosexuals, can not inherit the kingdom of God. Unrepentant thieves, drunkards, those who practice any sexual immorality also will not inherit the kingdom of God. You should not bless anyone in the church who is defiantly unrepentant and living in grievous sin. To do so in today's society will make a pastor cling to biblical morals even though they are not in step with the world.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 [NASB]

"9Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God"

What would be most pleasing to God you ask? To declare righteousness and also grace. God forgives sinners who do not deserve it. Your ultimate good to do is to get the sinners to repent and to believe the gospel.

This question is being answered in March 2011. States are offering various legislation that will will probably affirm gay unions in some states. The federal government seems content to sit on the sidelines and to let gay unions be the norm. Pastor, be a beacon. Lead the people away from sin not to it.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Helping the Hopeless- Even When They Are Family

Question received: The Bible says in 1 Timothy to provide for your family. My brother is just going to use all money on drugs. Should I help him?

My Answer:

Your brother needs help. It does not sound like he is a Christian or is with a body of believers. Who do you think will help him? You can buy groceries or give him a gift card to a grocery store. You could pay utility bills directly. You might still get burnt some how. Our Father does not give up on us.

Exodus 34:6 [NASB] "Then the LORD passed by in front of him and proclaimed, "The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth;"

The above verse describes the character of God. Are you showing Godly character to your brother?

Paul speaks to Timothy in the following verse to the advise the young minister should give to those in his care.

1 Timothy 5:8 ESV

"But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."



The wisdom of this following verse has been taught to me by pastors. In philanthropy recipients should be asked if any family members could help the person financially before the church gets involved. Why? This family ministry to each other can restore family relationships. Churches should not prevent this.

1 Timothy 5:3-4 ESV

"Honor widows who are truly widows. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God."



Should you throw away money unwisley on your brother? NO.

Is your brother Unsaveable? What do you think. Trust the Word of God.

Isaiah 59:1 [NASB] "Behold, the LORD'S hand is not so short That it cannot save; Nor is His ear so dull That it cannot hear".