Strange Church Practices On Repentance

QUESTION RECEIVED:
"Does sharing your confessed sin to your pastor & first lady (for prayer) mean you can no longer serve in the church? The service I'm referring to is such as ushering, reading scripture out loud and as a deacon taking up the offerings. My brother can no longer read the responsive scripture reading and my daughter can no longer usher. This has been silenced for 3 Sundays. God has forgiven their repented sin, should we relocate to another church. I've been with my church 14 years, my daughter 3 years and brother 6 years. It took a lot of prayers to get them there. I am so confused. We are in the United States."

MY ANSWER:

Yes. We are to confess sins to one another for accountability so we will repent and get back on the path.
James 5:16 (NASB)
"16Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much."

No. I have no idea what a biblical description of a "first lady" as a church office is. Why? Because this is made up by someone at your church. This is not a biblical