Sunday, March 18, 2012

Back To Corinth- church and family discipline

QUESTION RECEIVED:

My son has had an affair with someone in our family.
He and the woman divorced their spouses. It is destroying our family.
They both say they are sorry for the affair but now want to be accepted as a couple. As a Christian and mother what do I do?
Do I forgive and go on? Or do we ignore and shun them?
He is my son. It is killing us. What can we do?

MY ANSWER:

I will be praying for you. Take care knowing that the Lord knows the answer. We will look to His Word.
John 8:31-32
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
The Truth Will Make You Free
"31 So Jesus was saying to those Jews who had believed Him, “If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.”

This passage above deals with salvation. We know Jesus also deals and can set you free from this hellish selfish situation your son is in.
Your son and this woman need to be set free from sin and saved. You need to be set free from worry. You are not God, and I know you do not think you are. Trust him and let your son receive the discipline he needs for salvation and correction. Yes Mom, I know this is possibly the most painful thing you might ever endure. Trust the Lord and His wisdom and Word.

How dare I say your son is not saved? This is how. Saved folks sin but...
The Holy Spirit also convicts the fallen saved and they repent and look to Christ.

This union is unholy and not from God.

James 1:12-18
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
12 Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. 13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. 15 Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death. 16 Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren. 17 Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow. 18 In the exercise of His will He brought us forth by the word of truth, so that we would be a kind of first fruits among His creatures.

If this union is not from God and is from their lust how could you honor or endorse this. I did not say not to love your son. Trust God and His wisdom and Word.

Use your family and church family to love and bring your son to his right mind. Discipline is part of your love to win your son to or back to the Lord. It is possible and probable that he is not saved.

Matthew 18:15-20

IF YOUR BROTHER SINS AGAINST YOU

15 "If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16 "But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED. 17 "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 "Truly I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall have been bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall have been loosed in heaven. 19 "Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven. 20 "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst."

The purpose of church discipline is to return the sinner to again Christ. Church members can be unsaved. The offender might need the gospel shared with him. If the sinner is a Christian the point of church discipline is to get the brother to only repent and turn to Christ and away from sin. Then it is resolved and the Holy Spirit in Him will guide the person to right moral choices.


Jesus says you must love Him more than Mom, Dad or any relatives.
Jesus deals in exaggeration here in the following Scripture in saying your love for humans when compared with love for Him would seem in contrast like hate.

Luke 14:25-27
New American Standard Bible (NASB)
Discipleship Tested

"25 Now large crowds were going along with Him; and He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple. 27 Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple."


No you should not encourage or honor this unholy alliance.
Paul talks about a gross situation of incest probably between a son and step mother.

1 Corinthians 5:1-13

SEXUAL IMMORALITY DEFILES THE CHURCH

"1 It is actually reported that there is immorality among you, and immorality of such a kind as does not exist even among the Gentiles, that someone has his father's wife. 2 You have become arrogant and have not mourned instead, so that the one who had done this deed would be removed from your midst.
3 For I, on my part, though absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged him who has so committed this, as though I were present. 4 In the name of our Lord Jesus, when you are assembled, and I with you in spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus, 5 I have decided to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus."

What does this mean. Let him outside the door. He can ave all the sin he wants. He will be sick of it and have the opportunity to repent and return.

Mother this will be sooooo hard. Christ Jesus can do what seems to painful or impossible in our lives. Do not love your son into hell by ignoring the Lord's perfect wisdom. Your son is in great jeopardy. It is possible he could be restored to his wife, maybe not. God can do anything with hearts that repent. But his soul is the bigger issue. The woman should be treated likewise.

Mother, again I AM PRAYING FOR YOU TO GO AGAINST YOUR INSTINCTS AND TO TRUST THE WISDOM AND WORD OF THE LORD.
Please read these included Scriptures over and over and be set free so the Son can set your son free.

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